What do you do when your little angel hits age 2 and starts acting out, having tantrums and not listening to a word you say? Unfortunately kids don’t come with handbooks. Most parents deal with it the only way they know how, by losing their temper, yelling or in some cases even spanking their kids. Why do parents resort to these actions? Well, a lot of times it’s how their parents raised them. It’s what they see as normal. But what if you had a “handbook” of sorts to help educate you and come up with a parenting plan on how to deal with these situations? Well, the good news is there are hundreds of parenting books available. Here are 3 great sources for parents to read and come up with a plan so they know how to handle that next tantrum:
1. 1-2-3 Magic - The award-winning 1-2-3 Magic program addresses the difficult task of child discipline with humor, keen insight, and proven experience. The technique offers a foolproof method of disciplining children ages two through 12 without arguing, yelling, or spanking. By means of three easy-to-follow steps, parents learn to manage troublesome behavior, encourage good behavior, and strengthen the parent-child relationship—avoiding the “Talk-Persuade-Argue-Yell-Hit” syndrome which frustrates so many parents. Ten strategies for building a child’s self-esteem and the six types of testing and manipulation a parent can expect from the child are discussed, as well as tips on how to prevent homework arguments, make mealtimes more enjoyable, conduct effective family meetings, and encourage children to start doing their household chores.
2. Love and Logic - The tools in Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood will give you the building blocks you need to create children who grow up to be responsible, successful teens and adults. And as a bonus you will enjoy every stage of your child’s life and look forward to sharing a lifetime of joy with them.
3. The Super Nanny (Jo Frost) - The SUPERNANNY method gives parents the know-how to tackle any problem area, be it mealtime, bath time, bedtime, bed wetting, homework, sibling rivalry, aggressive behavior or a child who just won’t do what he or she is told. In an era where parents are bombarded with conflicting or guilt-laden messages at every turn, and sometimes obey their kids’ commands rather than the other way around, this is an upbeat, back-to-basics approach to restoring harmony and authority in the home. Jo has a magical way with children, but her methods are simple and can and do work for anyone: regular routine, consistency, verbal warnings, time out after misbehavior, and rewarding good behavior with lots of attention. And of course there’s Jo’s hallmark – the famous naughty step. So whether your ten-month-old won’t sleep through the night, or your two-year-old is out of control, Jo knows what to do and can show you how to do it. For anyone who doesn’t feel in charge at home, this is a godsend of a book full of brilliantly commonsense advice.
All three of these books can be found at your local book store. You might also find an audio book version at your local library for those of you who don’t like to read. I suggest reading more than one. You might find bits and pieces of each strategy will work for your situation in coming up with a plan for your kids. The most important part is having some sort of plan ready to handle your next situation. It will give you confidence and help you keep your cool in the most trying situation. Good luck!